In recent years, there has been a disturbing trend of violence against fathers during custody exchanges. What should be a routine process has turned into a life-threatening event for some, with fathers being killed or seriously injured simply because they were trying to see their children.
The statistics are alarming – according to the American Journal of Family Law, approximately 30% of all murders that occur during child custody disputes are committed during exchange times, and the majority of these victims are fathers.
There are a number of factors that contribute to this rising danger. In many cases, there is animosity between the parents and a desire for revenge, leading to violent outbursts. In others, untreated mental illness or substance abuse may be a factor. Additionally, some custody exchanges take place in public locations where security may be minimal, leaving fathers vulnerable to attack.
The consequences of this violence are devastating, not just for the families affected but for society as a whole. Children are left without fathers, families are torn apart, and communities are shaken by the senseless loss of life.
To combat this rising danger, there are steps that can be taken. Courts can require supervised visitation if there is a history of violence or if there are concerns that a parent may pose a threat. Additionally, exchanges can take place in more secure and private locations, such as police stations or neutral third-party facilities.
It is also essential that both parents – especially those with a history of violence – receive counseling and support to address any underlying mental health or substance abuse issues.
It is important that society recognizes the impact of violence against fathers and takes steps to eradicate it. We need to create safe, secure environments where families can interact without fear of violence, and we must work together to eliminate the societal factors that contribute to this type of violence.
What Are The Numbers?
The truth? We don’t know, not sure anyone does.
The rising danger for fathers during custody exchanges is a serious issue that must be addressed. By taking proactive steps to ensure the safety of all parties involved, we can help prevent these tragedies from occurring. No parent should have to fear for their life when trying to see their children, and it is up to all of us to create a world where this is no longer the case.
According to research and statistics, an alarming number of fathers are killed at custody exchanges each year. Studies have shown that this is a serious problem that is often overlooked and needs to be addressed.
Exact figures of the number of fathers killed at custody exchanges each year are hard to come by since most incidents go unreported. However, researches suggest that on average, about 30 to 50 fathers get killed at custody exchanges each year. Personally in my opinion doing Dad Talk I suspect there to be way more but it is going under the radar.
One of the most common reasons why custody exchanges can be dangerous is because of unresolved conflicts between estranged partners. These conflicts sometimes escalate into violence when they meet during custody exchanges.
Furthermore, the fact that custody exchanges take place in public areas like parking lots, shopping malls, and police stations can also contribute to the risk of violence. These areas may not be well equipped to handle such situations, making them dangerous for both parents and children.
There is a need for measures to be put in place to prevent these fatalities. One solution is to have mandatory mediation sessions where parents are required to resolve conflicts before custody exchanges occur. Another solution is to have exchanges take place in safe and secure locations with adequate security personnel to ensure the safety of everyone involved.
The number of fathers getting killed at custody exchanges each year is a worrying trend that needs urgent attention. While various solutions have been suggested to prevent these fatalities, there is a need for more awareness and support from law enforcement agencies and society at large to tackle this issue.
How is CPS Involved In Many of These Cases
Child Protective Services (CPS) was established to safeguard children from abuse and neglect. However, there are numerous cases where CPS failed to protect children in need, leading to tragic consequences. Many children have suffered at the hands of abusers and were ignored by CPS.
One of the primary reasons for the failure of CPS is its underfunding. The problem arises when caseloads become too heavy, and social workers are too overworked to provide the necessary care and attention to each child's case. In such instances, CPS may fail to thoroughly investigate each case or monitor the households of children placed with relatives or in foster care.
Additionally, CPS may fail to properly train its workers, leading to a lack of proper investigation techniques or inadequate understanding of different types of abuse. This failure may include the inability to recognize the signs and symptoms of a child who has experienced neglect, sexual, or physical violence.
Moreover, CPS often relies on reporting from schools or healthcare providers, which can be notoriously inaccurate or incomplete. Even when reports are received, CPS may not follow through adequately, leading to worsening conditions for the children in question, and in many cases, even death.
How Do The Family Courts Effect This Issue?
The family court system is designed to provide solutions to complex family disputes, such as custody battles. However, the adversarial nature of family court proceedings often exacerbates conflicts between parents, which can lead to tragic consequences, including murders at custody exchanges.
Custody battles often involve emotional and financial stress, and when the disputes escalate, it can result in bitter legal battles. The constant back-and-forth between parents makes it harder for them to work together to co-parent their children effectively. This can lead to strained parent-child relationships, which ultimately hurt the child’s wellbeing.
In high-conflict custody battles, parents may engage in manipulative tactics such as alienating the child from the other parent, hiding the child, or making false allegations against the other parent. These behaviors can further escalate the conflict and may be used as weapons in the court proceedings.
In some instances, the pressure and stress from family court can lead to extreme acts of violence. In recent years, there have been cases of parents murdering their children, ex-partners, or themselves during custody exchanges. This is a tragic outcome that results from the high-stress and high-emotion environment created by legal battles.
Furthermore, the court system has a reputation for being slow and ineffectual, prompting some parents to seek justice on their own terms. The slow pace of the court process can stretch custody battles over months, if not years. During this time, one parent may feel powerless and desperate, leading to irrational acts of violence.
It is crucial to identify the signs of a high-conflict custody battle before it turns violent. Early intervention by family court mediators, co-parenting counselors or other professionals may help de-escalate the situation and pave the way for effective co-parenting.
High-conflict custody battles can lead to tragic, heartbreaking consequences, especially when extreme violence occurs. It is crucial that the family court processes are reevaluated to ensure they prioritize the wellbeing of the child, are less adversarial, and provide faster and more effective solutions. Any signs of violence or escalation should be spotted and acted upon immediately. Only then can we prevent murders at custody exchanges and ensure the safety and wellbeing of our children.
CPS is funded plenty. They are heavily funded. Their #1 job is to traffic children, not protect them. The more children they confiscate the more $$ they get especially for handicapped children. It’s all evil. Keep them away from your children. They have NO authority!
If you haven't been following the Florida Microsoft executive case... a father was gunned down right in front of his own daughter at the hands of his ex wife's husband.
And in st Louis.... The iron county police dept is under fire for allegations of kidnapping and other numerous offenses.
This is becoming more and more common along with the other variously motivated shootings.
CPS is funded plenty. They are heavily funded. Their #1 job is to traffic children, not protect them. The more children they confiscate the more $$ they get especially for handicapped children. It’s all evil. Keep them away from your children. They have NO authority!
I just want you to know that I miss you and the podcast. I hope you are doing OK Eric. Much love to you and your family! 🤗❤️🙏
If you haven't been following the Florida Microsoft executive case... a father was gunned down right in front of his own daughter at the hands of his ex wife's husband.
And in st Louis.... The iron county police dept is under fire for allegations of kidnapping and other numerous offenses.
This is becoming more and more common along with the other variously motivated shootings.